Shyness becomes a problem when it negatively affects a person’s professional or social life, causing fear and anxiety when speaking with others or participating in social events. Here are the main causes of extreme shyness and how to overcome it:
Biological causes are divided into two types:
Extreme shyness can arise from common psychological disorders such as social anxiety, mood disorders, depression, and others.
This refers to the parenting style: raising a child in an environment filled with violence and control or excessive fear and caution can result in a personality that doesn’t allow the child to make decisions or face others confidently. Such a child develops weak social and personal skills.
Parents serve as role models. If they are shy around others, the child will naturally acquire this trait through their behaviors and daily practices unless guided in a healthy, balanced way.
Unpleasant experiences can contribute to the development of excessive shyness—such as bullying or humiliation in school, at work, or elsewhere.
Humans are naturally social beings who build relationships and seek connection. Extreme shyness forms a barrier that robs a person of comfort and security, trapping them in a lonely and dark shell. Here are some essential tips to help overcome it:
A shy person often lacks self-confidence. The first remedy to overcome shyness is to build confidence through practice and experience. But how?
Practicing confidence means confronting the causes of shyness. If it’s social, then start meeting new people and talking to them. It may seem difficult at first, but it’s quite simple—like starting a conversation in the elevator about the weather or the place. Challenge yourself to face your fears and break the shyness barrier regardless of its cause or type.
Use positive self-talk. Shy individuals usually have negative inner dialogues like, “I’m shy,” or “What will people think if I talk?”
You must shift this inner voice in your favor, using motivational and affirming phrases such as, “I’m confident,” “I can talk to this person,” “I will take the initiative to say hello.”
Set aside one hour each day to completely kill the shyness. During this time, act with full confidence, different from your usual self. This helps reduce mental stress and tension caused by constant thinking about your shyness and gives you a positive charge to carry into your work and life.
Practicing meditation and relaxation techniques can help reduce anxiety and fear caused by extreme shyness, and gradually increase confidence if done regularly. I recommend using the Tawazon meditation app to help achieve the needed calm and inner peace.
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